The show must go on, so play your part

If you have had to move your elderly loved one into a 24 hour skilled nursing facility, memory care or Alzheimer’s unit, you are most likely at the point where you’ve noticed that your loved one is very possibly in a different reality than you are.  In their minds they may be living in a […]

This demon called OLD AGE, what must it be like?

I was the non-paid family caregiver of three elder people for twelve years of my life.  I saw each of them go through many facets of aging.  My father was always kind of a loud, angry guy, but as he got older and the Alzheimer’s took over, he actually became quite mellow.  My mother had […]

The Guilt of Elder care

Three years after my friend Bridget’s mother had passed, she was still asking me if she had done enough for her mom.  Seriously?  Bridget was already a full time wife and mother and worked 35 hours a week at the library, in the reference department.  Her older brother lived in town, but when her mom […]

So how’s your Mom?

The longer you are in the role as non-paid family caregiver, the more people will only see you as that caregiver.  Partially because this job has now completely consumed your thoughts, your free time, your time to read or exercise and your overall life.  Partially because, whether you realize it or not, this is the […]

Mom can be so mean

Mom was living on her own and still doing pretty well, until she fell last year and broke her hip. She had gone into her backyard to water her plants and caught the edge of her shoe on the sidewalk. Mom laid on her back walk for half of the day until her neighbor stopped […]